It’s so cool that many folk here are growing for their partnersAs they should! I harvest for my Lady. I'd get them when they are just milky and get your heart racing. She likes it when they are more amber and chill so Mama gets what Mama wants, at least in my house.
I’m more of an early harvest girl as well, Ripe. I’ve recently learnt tho that this decision should be different for sativa or indica. Apparently, if it’s the cerebral high one prefers, it’s ok to let a sativa amber up a little as this will only temper the trippiness. But if it’s indica then pulling it early would be desired. You could always stagger your harvest and take some early for yourself.