Thank ya very much I didn't think about the distance from the bottom, the net cups I had in mind surely won't work. definitely loving all the ideas y'all have thrown out keep it up 420fam!Hey Baby Trees, welcome to #SIP club!
The size/height of the connector cup will depend on the distance between the bottoms of the two buckets. You want something tall enough to bridge the entire distance. It's ok if it's too tall as it can extend higher up in the upper bucket.
Whatever you use for that connector cup will have soil pretty well packed down in it so not much will wash out.
Hydroton will function differently from soil but that may only matter if you grow organically. Otherwise either will serve the same function, namely wicking water from the bottom bucket up into the upper one, as well as providing a foothold for the roots that want to explore the reservoir area.
Edit- Found another video where the gent uses 2 3 inch net pots (one cut in half) and zips em too the underside of the 5 gallon bucket and it's a perfect fit. I've got all the materials outside of the PVC, think I'll join yall on this endeavor! is the video I'll likely be following.