First off, I find it odd that you won't change the way you treat the Ms because she asks you to. The fact that you have to justify that change based on some norm taught to you by your father strikes me bizarre, but that's just me! And I personally don't ever buy the slippery slope argument. It's always used as a rationale to resist change, regardless of how good that change may be. These aren't stances that are changing, nor are they adjustments to your moral compass (since you have goodness in your heart). This is about recognizing that we live in an imperfect society that needs to be brought up to date, and the way to do that is to change our behavior toward others. It's not about what we think or feel, but about what we do.I do hear what you are saying. I have had these same discussions with countless people Shed. I don't change how I treat Ms Stank because she tells me I am supposed to treat her a certain way. I change how I treat her because I feel its the right way to treat her and its how I would want a man to treat my daughter if I had one, my sister, or how I want my two grand daughters to be treated. Now I can understand how my opinion might change on a matter if I sit down and have an open dialogue with respectful speaking and listening. But I refer back to the above statement.....if something changes its not because I want to make that other person happy for feel better. It changed because something in my moral compass changed. Something changed that led me to believe something else was the right things to do....not to try to make every Tom, Dick, Harry, Sally, Stacy, and Tina happy.
And I ask you this, are you willing to change your moral compass solely because of how I feel about your actions? What happens when you change it and now Ms Stank doesn't like your stance because it makes her feel 'offended' or bad. Are you going to change to keep her from being "offended". And now that you changed for her, what happens to Amy or Sue's opinion.....and what happens if that change then makes me offended? Changing to make people happy or feel good by itself, isn't a valid reason. See this slippery slope that you advocate for?
Don't dismiss my take as a reason not to self evaluate. I am a firm believer in self evaluation. Stuff that is important to me now, wasn't important to me when I was 25. And stuff that was important at 25 doesn't mean shit in many cases to me today! Why....because my moral compass has shifted as I live.