Shawnee, this is a serious concern of mine. Not for me personally, because I dealt with this head-on myself in the beginning, when I was only confronted with less life-threatening conditions. The reality of how easily this could turn from joy to stress was glaringly obvious.
Some suggestions:
You're a caregiver, by calling and by nature. Your first patient, and the one that matters most, is you. Cajun just learned that the most dangerous way he could have chosen. You don't need oil to fend off your own cancer, but I'd bet my life you have a compromised ECS like the patients you serve, just not so compromised that you've developed something as serious as out-of-whack tumor cells that you now have to battle back to oblivion.
Thank God we work with cannabis.
Yes, it frustrates me on occassion, but I'm dealing with it wonderfully. Much better than I thought. Lol!
Recommendation number one: Before you let yourself climb out of bed every morning I want you to give a war whoop and yell out your joyful intention to play with the universe this glorious day. You work with cosmic alchemy. Is there any greater calling? Revel in it girl. Every day, every moment. Ramp that power you carry up like the mighty shield it is. The clarity you need for the job ahead on your path will follow.
Recommendation number 2: Start tacking, if you aren't already. Your system could use the additional cannabinoids, at least for now, or you wouldn't be questioning yourself. This is my theory, but someday they'll prove it. So, consider a small tack a couple times a day to bolster your ECS. The new thread has some other ideas.
As to the sugar leaf indulgence, your instincts will guide you. My first thought was that you managed to find out how much oil one could extract from your sugar leaves without having to go through all that effort yourself, and got paid for it. Lol! Allow yourself an occasional research grant, so to speak.
You do have that mortgage, but you can think of yourself as a money magnet and you'll find yourself avoiding shortages ever, as in they never occur.
That's worked for me for a couple decades now. Not rolling in cash, but haven't come up short in decades. Somethings working there.
I'm taking part of my vacation in paradise to have this conversation with another cultivator in your same mindset. He started as a hobby, and then took on a friend with cancer. The stress of keeping up with his friend's needs has created stress where once there was only joy. Part of my
mission is to help him work through this dilemma. Having his friend beat one of the two cancers has bolstered him, but now production has to ramp up to go after the more aggressive lung cancer.
We're not trained for any part of this job, really, and this is the trickiest part. panacea has shared with us the poignant frustration of helping those who won't help themselves beyond taking the capsules. It becomes a personal ethical choice. If you feel it's enabling then you need to find a way not to feel like that. That may mean direct them to someone who's not so ethically thin-skinned.
You have the right to evolve your business to take on only those patients willing to be an active member of the team. Even the sickest patients have dedicated personal aides. It obviously means something to you that your efforts to grow are met with more involvement on the patient end. There're good reasons for that. These plants take a certain dedication and expense to grow. We understand the potential of what we work with. It feels wasteful to do less than you can, to take a pedestrian view of your healthcare.
Truth be told, it's the patients who accept that lifestyle changes are demanded to overcome a cancer overload and get the body to swing back to homeostasis that succeed in the end. Those are the team members you were hoping to find. You've come face-to-face with the human frailty of the ego. Not everyone will care the way you do.
Do you have an initial trial period? This is the natural point to realign either your patient to another caregiver or your attitude to one that isn't swayed by what others are doing or thinking. The deliberate waking will eliminate any judgemental tendencies, which may solve this dilemma for you altogether. Just because the universe brought them to you doesn't mean you have to keep them all.
A couple booklets to hand out to inquiring patients might be a nice touch. Something they can take with them while you each think about how that interview went and whether you'll be moving forward together? Possibly something that gives them some info on supporting the ECS without cannabis. I'm visual, for all the words. Lol! I could help with that part.
You know I adore you? I'm so fascinated by your career choice. I give this much thought, because of you, and because I've felt your influence guiding me in this direction from the beginning. It intrigues me to find us having this conversation at this time. I found my perch. Made that decision just this morning, and part of it includes the possibility of starting small as a caregiver myself, in a legal state.
Hmmmm...... That path appears to be lighting up.