So, I need to do a grow for me
And congratulations on that! I hope it ends up being more of an enjoyment than a task. It's (past) time that you get to devote that energy (and
work) to YOU. It always saddens me when I see, hear about, or even read about the elderly dancing to their children's (etc.) tune. A friend of mine is about 80. She still spends one day each week cleaning her daughter's
disaster house (and for free!). Her daughter (and family)
doesn't have the time. Yeah, I guess not
- flying to Rome for ten days, spending a couple weeks in the Western USA, back to Europe because they missed Paris the year before last... probably doesn't leave all that many days free to wash your stinky laundry and mop the floors.
Maybe her daughter should learn to budget her time like her mother does?
She had time to nurse her husband - who is several years older than she is - through a second stroke, move her aunt (yeah, that one is
really old
) into her home for almost three months so she could take care of her after the woman suffered some kind of ill, answer approximately 15,000,000 "Mom,
if you're not doing anything, can you go to the store for me?" requests, make large, elaborate, and very tasty (I received a care package of leftovers for one of them that kept me full to the point of lethargy for a week, lol) Thanksgiving and Christmas holiday meals for her extended family...
I think she's looking a bit tired these days, though. I joked(?) that she needed a full-time helper (because I knew that if I had, instead, said that she needed to take a shovel handle and thump on 86% of her family members a few times, that she wouldn't understand - or, worse, that she would, and I hate to see old ladies cry). Her response? "That sounds lovely. But we have to try and get by on Social Security, and it seems like every month we get a little farther behind."
The things we do to our elders, IDK, it just seems... IDK. Maybe it was my upbringing.
Er... [/RANT]