Re: This Years Outdoor 2013 Garden Diary- By JTG And Wife!
Do You All Ever Wonder About The Motives Of Certain Family Members??? Like Mother In Laws??? Well, For The Past Two Weeks I Have Been At War With My MIL. Now You See, The Funny Thing About This War, Is That Like The Korean Peninsula, It Seems To Ebb And Flow. When I Want Things Done The Way I Know How To Do Them, It Flows Forth Into Actual Almost Hand To Hand Combat. When I Do As She Wants It Done, It Ebbs Into A Farcical Peace, Because I Am Doing What SHE Wants, Which BTW, Means It Starts To Flow From My Side?!?
But Because I Was Taught To Respect My Elders, She Never Ever Gets To Hear What Is Being Said To My Self, In My Heart And Mind!!! Unfortunately For Me, SHE Has No Problems Holding Back Her Tongue, When It Comes To Saying Things Best Left Unsaid. And You Know, That Really, REALLY SUCKS!!!
I Am Not So Sure I Can Put Up With It Much Longer, Being A 45 Year Old Man(WELL ALMOST 45), And Being Used To Being Able To Express My Self To One And All, Whether In The Corps Or Not, I Think I Am Starting To Become Bitter, No, I Take That Back, I AM BITTER!!!
Y's Mom Can Be A Great Person, As Long As You Do Whatever It Is She Wants You To Do(SEE DICTATOR),But If You Have A Better Idea, Or Know That What She Is Doing Is Just Plain WRONG, And You Do It Your Way, To Avoid A Problem And Unnecessary Mistakes That Will Have To Be Fixed After The Fact, She Will Come Down On You Like A Ton Of Bricks!!! As A Matter Of Fact, She Would Rather You Do It Wrong First,
Then Fix It After She Can See That Her Way Was Wrong. Personally, I Would Rather Not Do Something Several Times To Prove They Are Wrong Just For Her FYI!!! It Smacks Of Insanity To Me, And I Have Just About Reached My Limit With Her On This Whole Damn Growing Season!!!
For Instance, I Set The Watering And Feeding Schedule Up(LIKE I HAVE BEEN DOING FOR THE PAST 20YRS), 5 Minutes Of Watering Per Each Plant, Then 1 Five Gallon Container Of Nutrients Per Each Plant. Also, The Plants Must Be Ready To Be Watered, And Depending On Heat,Wind,Plant Size Can Be Every 5 Days To Every 3-4 Days, To Every 2 Days. It All Depends On When The Containers Have Reached That Point That Says,"HEY,WATER ME PLEASE!!!" Pretty Darn Simple, At Least I Thought. Well Since We Have One Of Her Friends Doing The Watering, This Person Waters Every 2 Days, Whether They Need It Or Not!!! Which Unfortunately Has Made It So That The Plants Have Not Reached Their Full Size Potential!!! I Broached This Subject With My Mother In Law, I Even Bought A Stop Watch At The Beginning Of The Season, To Make Sure It Is Done This Way. Come To Find Out, Behind My Back, Mom Told Her/Our Helper To Do It The Easiest Way It Would Be For Her!!! Well That Means That The Plants Never Go Through A Dry Out Period, And Stay WET ALL THE TIME!!! I Finally Asked Mom About This, And She Told Me That She Had Countermanded My Orders To Our Helper, To Make Things Easier For Her
!!! So The Entire Season, The Plants Have Never Lacked For Water, But Have Been Starved For Oxygen, That Is The Whole Point Of Letting Them Go From Wet To Almost Dry(NEVER DRY ENOUGH TO HURT THE PLANTS THOUGH,JUST DRY ENOUGH SO THAT WHEN THEY GET WATERED AND FED, THEY DRINK IT ALL UP!!!) Seems Pretty Clear To Me. But Because Mom Told This Person To Do It As She Has Been Doing It, My Method Has Fallen To The Wayside, And Because It Brought My IRE OUT, In The Fact That I Was Not Consulted By The Change In Plans, I Flipped My Lid, Had Words With MOM, And Now Feel Like This Season Is Not Going To Be The Season It Could Have Been!!!
Mom Had The Nerve To Tell Me That If I Wanted It Done The Way I Thought I Had Set It Up With The Helper, Perhaps I Had Better Come And Do All The Watering And Feeding My Self!!! Which Would Mean, For 1 Weeks Of Traveling, Conservatively, Going And Coming 3 Times A Week, That Would Be Almost 300 Miles Of Driving On My Part!!! Man, I Have Worked With Family For Years, And Never Have Had This Problem, I Set The Watering Rules, The Feeding Ratios, Come Once Or Twice A Week To Make Sure I Do The Feeding,NO PROBLEMS!!! With Mom Involved, Things Have Gone To Hell, And I Regret Now Working With Her!!! Who Knows, Maybe At The End Of Harvest Everything Will Be Peachy, And I'll Have To Eat My Words, But I Do Not Think SO!!!
I Met Y When She Was 18, And I Was 25. Her Mom Being A Hippie(A REAL ONE,EVEN WORKED AT THE BERKLEY FREE CLINIC DURING,BEFORE AND AFTER THE SUMMER OF LOVE),Was Aghast The First Time Y Brought Me Home To Meet Her Parents. The Moment She Saw My Marine Corps High N Tight Haircut, It Was Like Hearing The Air Let Out Of A Balloon In Her Actions And The Way She Started To Speak To Me. She Told Me That The Last Person In The World That She Ever Wanted Her Dear Y To Get Involved In Was A Military Man, Boy Was I Shocked!!! Having Just Returned From Gulf War One(TRIUMPHANT,DECORATED AND PROMOTED), I Thought I Was A FINE CATCH, Just As I Knew Y Was!!! Well I Could Just Ramble On And On About All This, So For Your Sakes, I'll Stop.
Anyways, Asides From Her Hating Anything That I Do, She's A Good Woman,LOL!!!
I Will Try Not To Argue With Her This Coming Weekend, And Maybe We'll Get Some Pictures?!? Although I Have To Admit, SHE IS THE REASON THERE WERE NONE FORTHCOMING THIS PAST WEEK AND I APOLOGIZE. By The Time I Left Last Weekend, I Could Almost Not See Straight, Because I Was So Pissed Off, And My Blood Pressure Was High.
Thanks ALL For Continuing To Stop By, I Have Also Been Very Busy With Y's Health, They Finally Told Us That There Is NO INTERVENTION MEDICALLY That They Can Do For Her!!! Which Means, Either She Can Learn To Except The Pain And Live In Hell, Or Come To Grips With The Fact That Nothing Is Gonna Change, And Let Her Self Go. As Much As She SUFFERS DAILY, I And She Really Wonder Is Life Worth Living, If All Of Your Life Is Consumed In Pain??? It Is Up To Her, I'll Support Whatever Decision She Makes, God Bless You All
!!! SINCERELY, JAMESTHEGREEN
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