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CBDMed
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Well, yeah, I guess there is. And it is related to females, but only indirectly related to cannabis plants, haha. So I am not sure if this is the correct forum for it.One more?? That's all you got? Come on, there must be something else you want to know.
I have a "Dutch sister" I am very close with (long story, but she was kind of a lost duck I ended up taking under wing). She is very intelligent, and helps me with a lot of things (completely platonic), but she had some severe childhood trauma, and she does not have a lot of friends she relates with. So she talks to me endlessly, and seemingly about nothing. (It is like she waits until I finally get a moment to relax and decompress my head, and then she starts talking, and talking, and talking, and it seems like she will continue talking as long as I am paying even 1% attention--so then I don't get an opportunity to de-stress my head.)
I appreciate my "Dutch sister" very much, and I don't want to hurt her feelings for anything. And I would appreciate it if she was saying something insightful or important, but it seems more like what she wants is just to share literally whatever random feeling or emotion comes into her head, about her feelings, and how she feels, and what some random thing meant to her, etc. And she wants me to pay attention to her. (It seems like that is what she really wants, is my attention.)
I have met lots of highly intelligent women who add tons of value to the conversation. And she is super-intelligent, and some of her insights help me a lot. But sometimes I feel like I am talking with a 3 year old girl who never got approval from her daddy, and so now she is seeking it from me. Is there a right place in this forum for that kind of question? Or where is the place for that?
I don't want to hurt her feelings, and I get the feeling like if I ask her please only to talk with me when she has something to say, she will be crushed, and I don't know how to express it in a loving, friendly way. So, is there a right place in this forum for that kind of question? (Or do I need a different forum, haha?)
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.