I read once that Subcool, for example, uses flowering days based on flowering starting "day 1 after switching from 18/6 to 12/12" Most seeds seem to be from when the flip is made, not when the pre-flowers show - but not all. But, they probably also assume that they are vegged to sexual maturity, which most growers probably don't do. I usually count flowering days from the flip, because it's so much easier and I think more how most people think of it (it's confusing though, huh?). There are seed companies that say their flowering times are based on pistils showing. So... it's confusing I guess!
I'd rather do it from when flowers show, but I have to agree that it's more universal to refer to time from flip. There's no right or wrong, just what's right for you. Your journal, your grow, your days-in-bloom method. Just sharing my 2 cents. I used to think of it like you too, but got sick of fighting against the grain...