This is a good example of how sharing knowledge of your activities is, well... dumb (no offense). I'm assuming by the fact that you come off as an intelligent person that by ex you mean someone that you were actually married to at one time and not just some GF or live-in (meaning that there was no real committment, that either of you could at any time just get p!ssed off at the other and just leave). But even so, these things do have a way of ending badly.
Like they say, thinking with your heart - or your pecker -
isn't thinking.
Hope it turns out for the best. Hope that she doesn't know that you are a member here and what your account name is. Actually, thinking about it, just the site would be sufficient if she cared to do a little bit of reading; your journal is pretty identifiable to a person who has been in the place that you describe and show in pictures.
I do wish you the best of luck. I cannot offer any suggestions for a quick closure, only that you use your head at all times. Paranoia is healthy. Panic isn't, it causes us to shed IQ points like dead skin cells and then we back ourselves into corners of our own making (much like love and other treatable mental illnesses do).
I no longer jokingly suggest that people bury their troublesome ex-spouses under their floor. Turns out, sometimes a person will take such a suggestion as a serious one. And that eventually leaves you feeling really bad. Or... Well, you know. Feeling like you
should feel really bad <SHRUGS>.
The suggestion to change the code on your garage door opener is a good one. Depending on the type and age (and the intelligence of your ex), this might work great. But if it's an older setup where the code is just set by a bank of eight or 16 dip-switches, it might only slow her down a bit.
If you are not crippled, you might even remove the opener and just install a good manual lock. They tend to take an appropriate key (although bear in mind that a long-handled axe generally makes a passable key, lol).
I read that you learned you can get from your garage to your GR with nothing stronger and higher-tech than a stiff piece of plastic (credit card). I hate to kick a man when he's down (unless I'm the one that put him there, lol, in which case I've learned the wisdom of not leaving them in a condition to get back up when I'm walking away with my back turned)... But it's sad to read that you grow in such an unsecured location. I'm not even growing here and the first thing I did when I moved in - well, second - was to ensure that a thief (etc.) would have to break one of the few windows that can be accessed from the front. Those are somewhat difficult to get to but terribly easy to see from enough locations that it is extremely unlikely a would-be miscreant would succeed without being stopped or at least seen and reported. (A battering ram on the door would, of course, work... IF someone could figure out how to use one around a short and cramped right-angle wall. Lol.)
When I'm home I leave the door unlocked. I'd much rather that someone who was up to no good managed to get inside so that we could... chat about it for a while. They say you can get more accomplished with a kind word and a big f*cking rock than you can with just a... Hmm. I always forget which one doesn't work well by itself, lol, so I figure it's best to keep both handy at all times, right?
Anyway, yeah, hope it turns out... the best that it can. I've enjoyed reading your posts and wish to be able to continue doing so in the future.
Unfortunately, reporting attempted blackmail to the authorities generally requires disclosure of what the blackmailer's hook is.
Plain old harassment is always reportable. Doesn't keep her from releasing the evidence (if, indeed, it qualifies for the classification), of course... But sometimes it can be worth it. Especially with intelligent planning.
Don't worry my digital life is secure. I was so lucky to have a friend who happen to have a friend that is a lawyer saying there is no charge if she file since the evidence was obtained illegally.
Respectfully... What kind of lawyer
is your friend, real-estate? A first-year public defender - or a paralegal, lol - could tell you that statement would sink like the Titanic if you tried to float it.
You see, it comes down to this simple fact: Your ex-wife isn't a LEO who was acting in her official capacity. So the strictures against LEO do
not apply here. Let me give you an example. A second-story man is breaking into an apartment to do a little renegotiation of ownership rights (lol) and witnesses a murder in the apartment. He reports it. Cops get a warrant. Guy gets convicted. Why are the warrant and conviction valid? Because it wasn't the cops who broke in illegally to get the evidence, it was a private citizen who then voluntarily reported what he saw. The only basis for appeal - which was denied - was whether or not said witness constituted a reliable source of information, and since he reported it while he was simply being questioned in another matter, there wasn't even the possibility that he was making something up in order to cut a deal.
If I was a cop and somehow coerced you into breaking into a place and taking photos for me, those photos would be thrown out if it came to light how I had obtained them. But if you come up to me and show me the photos you happened to take when you were breaking in... Yeah, that's like looking down and finding a dollar, lol. Someone just made your day. Well, not
yours. You know what I mean.
Bro thank you thats what i have been trying to say. Please dont give twelve anymore bs info about those pics not fuck fuck fucking him. Its a wrape if they find out or read this journal.
(its not me talking its the weed)