I'm sorry but I can't connect the two : he leech on you because you grow? ( you mean he threats you in the sense of..I tell on you?)
I totally agree with Sue
It is not bad of you if you kick him around a little...
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I totally agree with Sue
It is not bad of you if you kick him around a little...
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Red, Sorry to hear about your son! 
The hospital must have mixed him up at birth with someone else's kid! 
YES!!!! You can transplant from the ground to pots. Just dig up as much of a perimeter as you can to safely get the majority of the rootball and lose the LEAST amount of roots possible.
The hospital must have mixed him up at birth with someone else's kid! YES!!!! You can transplant from the ground to pots. Just dig up as much of a perimeter as you can to safely get the majority of the rootball and lose the LEAST amount of roots possible.
God, I feel for you. I just went through this with my late husband's brother, who lives beneath my apartment and for whom I was growing. Had to tear down 10 plants.
Good luck with the move. They'll be fine. As for the son..... I have a disappointing one myself who threw me away at the insistence of an angry wife. Unfortunately, we can't control who they choose to grow into or who they marry. I've had to accept that he may not be my true son after all. It shouldn't happen to you any more than it should have happened to me. The pain is constant, but he's not staring me in the face either or threatening me. You deserve better. Let him move.
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Good job! I know it must have taken a lot of strength to take that step and am confident it was the right one to take!
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Good job! I know it must have taken a lot of strength to take that step and am confident it was the right one to take!
The minute he sent that picture he sealed the deal. It was an easy decision to make I have a career to protect...two more children under 18...and my freedom. He is grown then go be grown in a state with NO family but me. No car. No job. He has the answers...then do it.
Lilred,
Soooooo sorry about this. Tough love, you've started it, good job.
Now protect yourself.
You have work to do girl. Dig those plants up. As Krip said, as wide around as possible. You're going to get a crash course in root pruning.
Dig the ball up larger than the pot. Then shave it down with a sharp something until it is a couple inches smaller than the inside of the pot. A sharpened edge of of a garden trowel works well. Now fill the bottom of the pot with a couple inches of soil, place the plant square in the middle and fill up around it. Shake it down often to settle it. Then water them in.
If you can strip the tips of a willow tree and make a tea, it should help them set new roots. Kelp tea steeped 24hrs and stirred vigorously every few hours will help with the shock. The plant shock, not your shock. I think a couple shots of Turkey might be needed for you.
Do this under the cover of dark if possible, and when your Son is not around. He CAN NOT know what happens from here on.
Plant some veggies or something in the holes you dig up. If he takes the Sheriff to the holes, you better have a reason for them.
Lots of love and best of luck Red.
Soooooo sorry about this. Tough love, you've started it, good job.
Now protect yourself.
You have work to do girl. Dig those plants up. As Krip said, as wide around as possible. You're going to get a crash course in root pruning.
Dig the ball up larger than the pot. Then shave it down with a sharp something until it is a couple inches smaller than the inside of the pot. A sharpened edge of of a garden trowel works well. Now fill the bottom of the pot with a couple inches of soil, place the plant square in the middle and fill up around it. Shake it down often to settle it. Then water them in.
If you can strip the tips of a willow tree and make a tea, it should help them set new roots. Kelp tea steeped 24hrs and stirred vigorously every few hours will help with the shock. The plant shock, not your shock. I think a couple shots of Turkey might be needed for you.
Do this under the cover of dark if possible, and when your Son is not around. He CAN NOT know what happens from here on.
Plant some veggies or something in the holes you dig up. If he takes the Sheriff to the holes, you better have a reason for them.
Lots of love and best of luck Red.
Putting them in a shaded area for a few days, as opposed to direct sun, will also help reduce stress.
That was the action of a strong woman who loved her son. I'm proud of you and I'm sorry you're so far removed from me that you can't get this hug in real space. Use your imagination. It's bursting with pride and filled to overflowing with fortification.
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Funny part is he said to me today when he threaten me..."I learned from the best" I told him "I can show u the best better than I can tell u". The problem with youth is they announce everything they are doing. I moved in silence...when he comes back to the house he will be on for a surprise.
I am new to all this...remember that when I give my limited advice
I am new to all this...remember that when I give my limited advice
From someone whom has a mom that physically and emotionally tried to destroy him as a child I really wish she could have been as strong as you are. You went into serious "can do" mode and did the things you had to do to save your plants and your child. My mom is terrible and I would never blackmail her.
Tough love is tough to do but you never know. Maybe some day he will grow up and come back and thank you. It was a hard decision you made and he has learned again why you are the parent and he is a child. Tough to do but bravo to you. +reps for having the strength to go through with it. I bet it was a nice adrenaline rush moving those plants and they look mighty beautiful.
Tough love is tough to do but you never know. Maybe some day he will grow up and come back and thank you. It was a hard decision you made and he has learned again why you are the parent and he is a child. Tough to do but bravo to you. +reps for having the strength to go through with it. I bet it was a nice adrenaline rush moving those plants and they look mighty beautiful.
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Thank goodness my future husband got right in there with me to help me get the girls to safety. I am happy he has his own land with tons of privacy.
I will just spend a few nights here as I wait for the eviction to be over. Home is just 5 mins down the road. It just means I will have to take dinner home. Spend my daylight hours there then head over here at night.
My better half will be installing the camaras so I can remotely see what is going on at the house and at this point the camaras are to make sure none of my property leaves the house.
I have already found a renter for the apartment. Not that we needed one but it sure helps. And he helps soul because the young man has a disabled daughter that he supports and the mother of his child so that she can stay home with his child. They live about 2 hrs away and he commutes up there on a regular basis. He is currently living with his mom and I talked to her. He is 25 and works at a very good job. He has his own car and no points or accident so I don't see him raising my insurance...Esp with my son now coming off it. I am happy I am able to help this family. Now he can save more to buy his own house and has a place that is safe for his daughter to visit.
This morning as I sit a reflect on yesterday I am heartbroken that my child would do that. Growing up I made sure they never needed for anything and even took care of most of their wants. His siblings told him this yesterday. They told him that he was stupid and did this to himself. They told him that they are not going to support him in this...that snitching on ur mom is not cool and disrespectful. It made my heart full to hear that.
Now about the plants....are they in flower
The one who's stalk i broke I had to stake up today.
Also he has tons of ants...like all the world's supply of ants were made in his backyard...or his backyard is world headquarters for Ants United Against Humans...
is it ok to use the ant poison this close to my plants that have been thru so much
I am new to all this...remember that when I give my limited advice
I will just spend a few nights here as I wait for the eviction to be over. Home is just 5 mins down the road. It just means I will have to take dinner home. Spend my daylight hours there then head over here at night.
My better half will be installing the camaras so I can remotely see what is going on at the house and at this point the camaras are to make sure none of my property leaves the house.
I have already found a renter for the apartment. Not that we needed one but it sure helps. And he helps soul because the young man has a disabled daughter that he supports and the mother of his child so that she can stay home with his child. They live about 2 hrs away and he commutes up there on a regular basis. He is currently living with his mom and I talked to her. He is 25 and works at a very good job. He has his own car and no points or accident so I don't see him raising my insurance...Esp with my son now coming off it. I am happy I am able to help this family. Now he can save more to buy his own house and has a place that is safe for his daughter to visit.
This morning as I sit a reflect on yesterday I am heartbroken that my child would do that. Growing up I made sure they never needed for anything and even took care of most of their wants. His siblings told him this yesterday. They told him that he was stupid and did this to himself. They told him that they are not going to support him in this...that snitching on ur mom is not cool and disrespectful. It made my heart full to hear that.
Now about the plants....are they in flower
The one who's stalk i broke I had to stake up today.
Also he has tons of ants...like all the world's supply of ants were made in his backyard...or his backyard is world headquarters for Ants United Against Humans...
is it ok to use the ant poison this close to my plants that have been thru so much
I am new to all this...remember that when I give my limited advice
I thought you said your son and friends were around 10-13yrs old? Also my first piece of advice was not to obsess over your plants but you keep doing the opposite. When you obsess nothing good will ever come of it. We all screw up but I believe the number one cause of failure is constantly dwelling on your grows. Anxiety will cause you to overthink then overprotect, over water, overfeed, and second guess everything you do. I'm only on my second journal ever but have grown for 23yrs with breaks in between grows. I'm only on my second journal cuz I couldn't provide details of my grows if I wasn't checking all the time. Some plants will fail no matter what you do but most will succeed especially if they are treated like any other plant. Pretend they are tomatoes. I killed so many plants when I first started but then I learned to chill out. You are a good grower and that is enough. The plant will tell you what it needs and when it needs it. Growing should make u happy never anxious. Good luck
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Also try not to treat your plants as children and name them. Just don't anthropomorphize your plants. I did it and so do many in the beginning. You don't even know you are doing it. At least least I didn't know that I was doing it until I caught myself talking to them.