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Green Dreamz said:
That is the basics of it now....the ultimatum has been explained to him and it is up to him now......he hasnt been home since:)......just text but just the short of it:).......i am over it to be honest.....we have bent over backwards to help him.....22 years old....eats for free.....has a roof over his head.....we supply the toilet paper.....bodywash.....all he has to buy is toothpaste and deorderant:)lol......wow....haha....let me stop now....this could get ugly:):rofl:lol......anyway Mr Skunny i am pretty sure after me blowing up at him and telling him the hurtful truth that his days here are limited......i just hope someday he wakes up and realizes his potential:).....ok....for real i am done:)lol
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Hang in there Green. This scenario sounds very familiar to me......because I lived it. My dad was "my house, my rules" and I was a hell of a rebel.....not only did I leave his house, I went as far away as I could get and that was Cali. Best thing I ever did......got the wild hair of the dog out of me, went back to school, started my profitable career, and the rest is history.....but I did it all on my own and made myself proud. Proved I was pretty damn strong and could do anything.

Your boy is already formed, he just needs to mature. My morals and values served me well, all a gift from, you guessed it, my dad. Your boy has all that too, you are a good man, Green.

Had a lot of guilt for what I put my folks thru emotionally, though.....I have more huzpa than all 3 of my bros put together. Came back 14 years ago to spend quality time with my folks and I kept my promise. They are my very best friends and I absolutely adore them. Sadly, both are in precarious health, so each day is a gift, I know that, and that's why I came back. I had it all in Cali.

But in the end, I wanted to be able to look in the mirror with no regrets in my life. He will come around, I promise you.:circle-of-love:
 
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That was very sweet of you to share with me Shawnee and i hope you are right:)...i am not a hard person to live with....respect me and LB and the house and that is it:).....we have always been there for him when he has fallen....i am coming to the realization with LB's help that i need to let him fall and get up on his own......i have been there maybe too much:).....but i look forward to the days when he realizes what i go through each and everyday worrying about his future:)....anyway:)...on to brighter things:)lol....i sent you a PM earlier....i dont think anything for you to reply to...jsut making sure you got it:).....
 
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Green, for some reason I didn't get an email that said I have a PM, but I got it, thank you. It's not you being hard to live with, Green.....just 21 year old angst, age, and hormones......I really feel for you, it must be hard to to stand by, or let go and watch him fall......I guess my behavior to my parents had me not wanting kids for the payback I would get LOL. I worked so damn hard to get back in their good graces, I really didn't have to but I had to make my karma right again to myself.....can you imagine the only girl taking off 3, 000 miles away at 20, holy shit I had balls......but hey, that experience made me the fine upstanding and compassionate gal I am today, LOL! It's a phase that will pass, and he won't "get it" until he gets out on his own. Let him go but keep the communication door open at all times.
 
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& they say girls are harder than boys. But it's getting close to date time for mines so I may have to have the father/daughter talk soon.
 
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My boy was the same gd . When he got thrown out of his mother's he come to live with me and being ex military he thought he was in for a hard time . Me and the new wife left him to it and I wipe his arse every time he made a mistake . It got me no where and we came to blows one day I nearly or could have killed him for disrespecting and squareing up to my good lady . Enough was enough I told him he had to go . He got his own place a job and now we are best of friends :) he was my best man . What made him a man was he had to wipe has own arse and clean his own mess up . And since has told me he hated me when I chucked him out but know agrees it was the best thing I could have done . I have never hit one of my children before this day and raising my voice was more than enough :) it will all turn good in the end my friend .
 
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good morning dirty.....im sure you will sort it out with your lad mate....i was a bit off a boy when i was young and it didnt do me any harm to look after myself from aged 15....man i hope my lads dont go the same route as me lol...chin up and keep smiling mate...best wishes to LB also..
 
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Look at all of us hellions and what we are up to now.....mellow as our next bong....hahahahaha....youth can be a slippery slope, for sure......I can imagine as a parent I would fret non stop....what do you call that.....a helicopter mom.....I'd be horrible, it's such a scary world today....
 
I was a problem kid when I was young too. Came close to cutting ties with my family, but once I grew up a little I realized what they were doing. Now my parents are my best friends and I can't imagine life without them. Hell, it's the only reason I'm not in Colorado or Washington right now. He'll come around GD, he just doesn't see the big picture yet is all
 
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B A R said:
& they say girls are harder than boys. But it's getting close to date time for mines so I may have to have the father/daughter talk soon.
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I'd say sooner than later, BAR....and get that rifle loaded up....the young girls I see today are EXTREMELY forward; I had my friend's 12 year old sit on my porch with me and confess she had given some kid a BJ!!!! Mon dieu, what was I supposed to do with that information????? Oh my, that was a bad day for me......
 
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Shawnee this is the kind of shit that scares me and not much else does other than the wife . But having four boys I never really had to have the talk . I just gave them a big arse bag of condoms and said enjoy but promise me you will use them and if ya need more ask . I was a father at eighteen . 20 days after my birthday my eldest was born . Now my little girl is eight and I know I have only a few years left of her and her innocence before boys come along . I don't want them to do what I did . I mean I want them to have a good time but not to become a parent so early . Girls grow up a lot faster than boy's and that scares me . I know what I was like when I was young :rofl:
 
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On the kid thing - "These kids nowadays...." same story different times. The generation that are in their 20s now I call the slacker generation. It's not just me that thinks that either. Hang in there... my wife's son went to college graduated came home put a robe on 24/7 never got off the couch for a year - no job didn't even change or WASH his robe, wore holes in the elbows (who does that?). Finally one day gets up off the couch and says I'm riding "a" bike to Cali (we are on the east coast). I almost choked laughing.. my wife was horrified. I told him maybe he should get a bike first and try a test ride for 50 miles or so since thats about what he needs to average daily for a ride that far. He buys a bike with his own $$ test rides, leaves for Cali a few weeks later and makes the ride. Comes home puts his robe on and back to the couch he goes. No shit. Needless to say that didn't go well with me so confrontation was inevitable. He soon realized that he needed to get out on his own. He got a job an apartment and a girl friend! Hes doing great now too we get along perfectly.

He first made a trip to the county jail when the confrontation happened so yeah that didn't go well but the final outcome did. The confrontation was un-necessary but not provoked by me, he realized that HE needed to change and he did. The crappy part of the history is forgotten and a new relationship has begun as adults and friends.

Stand tall, be honest and fair.. you will begin to see the good attributes in yourself start to shine thru in your children, it may take a little longer than you'd like but it will happen.

Oh yeah and my wife's son doesn't even own a robe now!! hahaha go figure....
 
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Shawnee said:
I'd say sooner than later, BAR....and get that rifle loaded up....the young girls I see today are EXTREMELY forward; I had my friend's 12 year old sit on my porch with me and confess she had given some kid a BJ!!!! Mon dieu, what was I supposed to do with that information????? Oh my, that was a bad day for me......
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Well the actual sex part is not really an issue of convo. She has my sister who spends a lot of time with her and they discuss all that girly stuff, plus; this is NYC & kids know a lot at a very young age. The convo I need to have with her is about the deviousness of teenage boys to get into her pants. I used all the tricks myself as a kid. Nothing was more important!
 
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british green said:
Exactly bar that is my problem :)
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Well then, listen up, gentlemen. My dad told me that guys come sniffin' around for one thing and one thing only......most of the time when I asked to go anywhere, he'd say no....and then "I've never been a father before, there is no manual, so no" And no dating until you are 16. He was all over me like white on rice and it was justified. The more he denied me the wilder I got. I went on a ski trip to Vail when I was almost 16 with my boyfriend and a big ski club. The last thing he said to me at the plane was "Don't fuck up." Well, the BF and I got caught smoking and drinking and breaking the rules, so they sent us both home. I'll never ever forget the plane approaching the gate and seeing my father sitting inside through the window......lord have mercy...the next year the BF went skiing again....I was still grounded......RED FLAG....don't wait....I'm lucky I'm alive, no gaggle of kids with different baby daddies, and so well adjusted. Real lucky.

My brother has a beautiful daughter with the longest legs you've ever seen...just a real knockout/headturner....she has no clue. She was messing with a boy and he ripped her out of that school and put her in a private girl's school. They kept her so buried in school work, so busy with swim practice and sports, that she came home exhausted and went to bed. She just went off to college, another scary topic, so we'll see how it goes.

No easy answer.....keep them engaged and busy. A late blooming girl is a better deal, for sure.....make sure she gets an education so she can earn her own income..... In this day and age it's a must. That should be the total focus......plenty of time for men later......Good luck! Oh, and another thing I'm big on.....no marriage until after 30.
 
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Oh, don't get it twisted! Grades are the #1 priority in our household. I don't even accept C's. We were brought up like that. While I never made every period in school for one day (either going in late or leaving early) my sister made straight A's and I expect the same thing from my daughter. Call me a hypocrite but as a single father I plan on her out succeeding my expectations.
As far as trying to keep her oblivious to life that's something I refuse to do. I want her to understand the streets as well as the books because innocence & unawareness is the leading cause of trouble. She's a well rounded kid with her head screwed on straight & my best friend in the world but every now and then I have to knock her upside her head just to remind her who's in charge. :laughtwo:
 
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I guess what I am really saying BAR, is there's no easy way....what do I know, I don't even have kids....my dad was the same with grades....he called the 'C's' hooks.....he was also old school, very strict, and a former fighter pilot in the US air force, so no pushover and ALOT of street smarts. All I know is that he did the best that he could, we went through a rough patch, and now I'm 100% daddy's girl again. It's all good. Growing up is not easy...
 
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Hey, BAR....is Baby Girl your daughter or your GF???
 
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