MJ and raising children

[Tiger Bass]

You are right, almost all these reason have to do with it being illegal. With it being legal, you could properly teach you kids about responsible use when they are younger. If I ever have kids though, I still dont think I would let them use it before 14-16. Just doesnt seem like something that should be part of a kids life or major day to day concerns at that age.

 

[Bagzgroove]

It probably shouldn't be. . .but in reality it will. . . whether your children smoke or not, they'll still have to deal with MJ at those ages, in varying degrees I suppose, but none the less, they'll have their opinions about MJ and "drugs" by 12-16, and maybe even earlier. Which is why I sometimes find it difficult to imagine being able to hide it well. I was a clever child, and my daughter seems to have taken to that even at 1 1/2. Given how readily available info is these days, she could become aware before I am comfortable discussing it with her. . . Parents worry sometimes, and sometimes we worry even more. . . especially new ones like myself. Its not the every second tought kind of thing, but it does sit in the back of my mind, as I'm sure is with other "smoking" parents.

 

[Pinch]

Hmmm.. good topic. My kids, now 30 and 25, saw their Dad (me) smoking pot from the day they were born. The only time it got touchy was during the Reagan days.. "Just say No and turn your parents in if they use!"

Ugly times.. but I simply told my kids that, although against the law, I chose to use pot. They understood.

So let's see what happened. Both my kids graduated from UC colleges, my son is now doing interviews for med school. They both use pot.. they both use with their Dad (me). My daughter grows some of then best down in San Diego.

No big deal if approached correctly.

My step-son knows I use and just laughs when I appear medicated.

 

[Tiger Bass]

That's freakin awesome Pinch. Congrats.

 

[Pinch]

Cool kids.. thanks.

 

[drktwr]

I have been a smoker for about 12 years and a father for about 7 years. I never smoke in front of my son but I will sneak a toke in the bathroom under the fart fan. I suffer from mild anxiety so MJ helps me to put things in perspective as a parent and not be overbearing with my child. I plan to keep it from him until he either finds out or it becomes fully legal both state and federal. When one of those days comes I will have a long talk with him about MJ. Depending on the person and how much they smoke MJ can make a person lazy and unambitious. But with the exposure of MJ on tv and in music I won't be surprised if he starts smoking in high school like dear old dad. Then I will confiscate his sack and let him try some real stuff. LOL.

 

[Bagzgroove]

Hey, thats great stuff stoner4life. . . Thanks for sharing!

 

[slntchttrbx]

it was interesting reading all of the responses.
i was raided and the cops made my son sit in the living room while they asked me questions. my son who is 8 had thousands of questions when i came home. he knew i was smoking and why. but he did not know it was illegal. they took him from me and sent me to jail. they could have taken him before they made him sit and listen. i got him back the next day.( they sent him with his nana)
and i was released on a 2500 signature bond. so he knows i smoke, and now that he knows its illegal, he has caught me and told his school. i got out of that easier than expected but i sat down with him and i told him EVERYTHING.
and now he is ok with the fact i do what i do but i still do not smoke in front of him. i think being honest with your kids is the best thing to do. because if your not honest with them they will go else where to find the answers, and thats a dish better served at home!

 

[drktwr]

it was interesting reading all of the responses.
i was raided and the cops made my son sit in the living room while they asked me questions. my son who is 8 had thousands of questions when i came home. he knew i was smoking and why. but he did not know it was illegal. they took him from me and sent me to jail. they could have taken him before they made him sit and listen. i got him back the next day.( they sent him with his nana)
and i was released on a 2500 signature bond. so he knows i smoke, and now that he knows its illegal, he has caught me and told his school. i got out of that easier than expected but i sat down with him and i told him EVERYTHING.
and now he is ok with the fact i do what i do but i still do not smoke in front of him. i think being honest with your kids is the best thing to do. because if your not honest with them they will go else where to find the answers, and thats a dish better served at home!

That was a messed up situation indeed but I never carry enough bud to warrent a felony. I always keep it under an ounce (usually an 1/8th at a time) and I don't grow. There would be no reason for anybody to serve me a warrant.

 

[Bagzgroove]

i i think being honest with your kids is the best thing to do. because if your not honest with them they will go else where to find the answers, and thats a dish better served at home!

I agree. . .

 

[Bagzgroove]

I didn't say much about the book really..... it was cool enough I bought two copies, one to loan & one is a hard cover first edition autographed by Ricardo Cortes. The book is now only $15.00 delivered (was $20 & well worth it) from the website in my previous post.
What you're going to like about the book is its wonderful graphics and it tells the plain and simple truth about a stigmatized plant. There's not a single lie told or hidden & it is appropriate for everyone from kids to anyone who's uninformed about marijuana.

I really didn't know such material existed. . . I think thats great. I am def looking to get a hold of a copy.

 

[Bagzgroove]

BTW Bagz......I own alotta Bags myself.... Bags & Trane, Bags Meets Wes, Roll Em Bags, Bean Bags, Bags Opus......you know any of these bro? Are you a fan of the vibes?

Forgive me. . .I'm pretty baked. . .and I don't quite follow you. . lol!! If in reference to my name Bagzgroove. . . comes from Bags' Groove and it a song from Miled Davis. I've had the name from the days of BBS's and such. . hehehe, I wonder how many peeps here know about those. . . LOL, and as I write this I keep re- reading you message and thinking Jazz and it fits but not quite and aaa.. . sorry, like I said really, really stoned. . LOL!

 

[slntchttrbx]

That was a messed up situation indeed but I never carry enough bud to warrent a felony. I always keep it under an ounce (usually an 1/8th at a time) and I don't grow. There would be no reason for anybody to serve me a warrant.

indeed i have learned my lesson.. a lil late, but learned just the same...

 

[Bagzgroove]

You're not so far off bro......you just ain't groovin to the vibes (vibraphone) of Milt Jackson.....
Bags & Trane=Milt Jackson/John Coltrane
Bean Bags=M.J./Coleman Hawkins
Bags Meets Wes=M.J./Wes Montgomery....and so on bro..... who couldn't know what bags groove is??? If you listen to rock and roll only......it'll rot your fuckin' mind....

AAAHHH! LOL!! wow it was like the words seemed familar, but it just wasn't clickin. . . Yeah, I got into Jazz in high school, Glen Miller and such. I started poking around and came across Kind Of Blue. . . and I was hooked, Miles took me into some funked out, trippy Jazz that I love. Bitches Brew, On The Corner. I branched out from there really, if there was a compilation with miles and. . . whoever, I picked it up. Thats how I found Coltrane, Monk and so on. . .oops. . sorry, once I get going about Jazz, I keep going. . .LOL. . . But recently, like within the past 6 or 7 years I get into just seeing jazz live. I live in Phila, and we have some of the greatest jazz clubs here. And there's nothing like getting into some really hangin on a cliff sax or trumpet, live. . . the sound just resounates (sp?) inside you. . . Jazz became a good musical skipping stone for me, lead me to Medeski, Martain, and Wood, great live shows btw, and I'm rambling again. . .lol

I would love to go to the Blue Note in Greenwich, I see that place mentioned in a lot of books I read through the years on Jazz and the artists and such. Some here in Phila too, but god knows why, Zanzabar Bue is so over rated. Been there 3 times, and just aint feelin it. . . and really expensive. Anyway, great to talk to another Jazz fan. . . I think I'm in a Sketches of Spain mood. . .

 

[Bagzgroove]

Yeah that would have been something else. . . That club has a lot of history.

 

[Freeman420]

I think there is nothing wrong with toking when you have kids. Just not in front of them when they are younger than 12. My plan when I have kids is to do it behind closed doors for tha first twelve years of their lives and after, i'll smoke in front of them unless they ask me not to. I mean a lot of parents and grandparents smoke tobacco in front of kids, so cannabis seems alright, just don't blow it in their faces. Your kids should know as much about you as possible so they can have a good example to help define themselves. You should teach your kids about all drugs when they are in their last year of elementary school or a little sooner so they know not to try tha bad shit, even under peer pressure.

If they ask me to try it, I will only do so if they are around 12,13. I mean there have been plenty of parents who give sips of beer to toddlers(me included, as a toddler), so sharing some bud when they are around teenage seems fine. It's their choice to try it or not and I would prefer that they try it for tha first time when i'm around. If they want to do it regularly, then I would like it if they do it at my house with my supply(you never know what some people might add to bud before they sell it). Tha thing is that you need to teach common sense and responsibility to your kids so they know not to slack off and be lazy when they use cannabis. I like to do anything and everything when stoned, I believe I study best when under tha influence. You need to be honest and open with your kids so they can make informed desicions regarding drugs and if they chose to use cannabis, then that's something you can share with them.

 

[Bagzgroove]

I get what your tryin to say. . .but no. . . I don't think it would be appropriate to smoke in front of your children at those ages. . . presumably (sp?) giving a sip of beer to a child, if had so choosen to do so, wouldn't effect them, like being buzzed or drunk. Sharing green with a 12 year old doesn't sit right with me. . . although I will say I was 13 or 14 when I first tried it. . . I, would not share a joint with my 12 year old daughter, or anyones. . . I am all for teaching responsibility, and common sense. . but part of teaching it is through example, and toking with your kids at 12 is not responsible.

 

[420inTX]

Ok...here's my story....I was given up for adoption when I was 2 weeks old and adopted into a home that was strict old school catholic and in a very small town in South Texas. My family as a whole drank a lot at family functions and a few of my uncles were alcoholics. I was never exposed to MJ until I was a Junior in High School and have been smoking ever since.

A few years ago I got contacted by the Adoption Agency that put me up for adoption in 1967. They said that my birth mother had contacted them and wanted to meet me. I said Ok but I had to go through some counseling before our meeting was approved. My birth mother is one of 8 kids who grew up in a hippy family in the 1960's. They are all very artistic people who play guitars, bongo drums, do spoken word performances, paint, write poetry, and all are very outdoorsy, nature loving people. Most of the elders in the family are teachers at the grade school level or college professors. All of their children now are in college and some of the smartest people I know. A short time after meeting my mother and her family I found out that the whole family smoked MJ and that they all smoked it with their children as soon as they graduated from High School. At family functions the parents would go ut to the shed in the back yard and play guitars and smoke and the teenagers would stay upstairs and smoke. At first this really didn't sit well with me but now I think in the future I will smoke with my daughter (who is now 5).

I am rambling now because of a bit hit from the bong, but my point is that all we can do is raise our kids right and give them the right tools and let them carve out a life of their own.

 

[Bagzgroove]

Thanks for sharing, I liked your story. . . and I would like that. . . My daughter a grad from High school, sitting at the dinning room table, rollin up a big fatty with her dad. . . I think I'm gonna play with my "little bean". . .lol <--- real corny I know, but she is my little bean!

 

[Pinch]

Did I already tell you this.. my kid, who I smoked around since he was born and he's a user too.. just got accepted at med school in Chicago. Not bad huh?