imo...as a genuine friend, lemme pass yah some meds...
If it were easy everyone would be doing it. Such a delicate balance between your wife and your ladies. It's a give and take, striking the balance is key to negotiation.
You guys just kinda went through a scare, she might still be triggered or not able to get over it as fast as she wants to. Perhaps she needs to see things put away, then have time to move on. Once she feels comfortable I'm sure she will encourage you because she wants to see you happy.
When us wives get spooked, we have a knee-jerk reaction to protect family at all costs. We are conditioned to react when we feel our family is potentially threatened. Once we are reassured and stability is reestablished in our core instinct, then we can negotiate boundaries. She just loves you sooo much, you already know that.
I don't usually chime in but I've been friends with you from the beginning. There was a time she wouldn't even let a tent in your home. Take some time, give your wife the reassurance she needs, and you'll be back. I think this will be all positive in the end...
The only loss is that we are left here keeping your torch lit in hopes you return to us some day, cause you're a fantastic guy with all the right intentions.
True love will empower our passions when trust is 100%. Or I'm totally crazy and chalk it up to my beautiful healing brain malfunction. I just care, also, so many people leave and never come back so I'm taking the moment to say that you've been an awesome and loyal friend. If I could take a clone of you, I'd have a best friend with me for the rest of my life.
you got this amigo.
Smile the entire way...