Good to hear from you Mona. I was concerned we'd neglected you too long.
Let's start with some basic biology. There is no way for you to pass THC to your husband through any contact. We even had some members a while back use infused topicals and then get drug tested to assure everyone that topicals don't show up on blood tests. I understand the trepidation, but it's unfounded, and continuing to believe in this will only keep you from exploring the regimen that can do more than cover symptoms. I'm assuming your intent is to induce natural healing? At the very least to get rid of the incessant pain. This will likely take THC.
For everything that CBD will do to work on reducing inflammatory response, it can't touch what THC does for pain. You can dose THC in a way that euphoria doesn't become a factor beyond a sense of wellbeing. For a system so deficient as to express BMS the doses would probably do best as suppositories, which would allow you to get larger cannabinoid loads without stressing the system.
So my first questions are concerning your access. What do you have available, and what access can be created, if those supplies aren't enough for the task at hand? If it were me, I'd be looking to get the CBD levels up around 200 mg a day, split between four doses. If that were supplemented with small doses of THC to the tune of no more than 50 mg a day that would give you a 4:1 ratio in favor of CBD, which would counter any euphoria the THC might offer, if you take the meds orally. At 4:1 or 5:1 you don't feel the effects of THC at all, in most cases. There are a number of chemovars on the market now that will give you that ratio naturally, or it can be formulated by combining oils.
Chronic pain is best managed with a balanced, equal ratio of the major cannabinoids, but then you'll be dealing with some euphoria, which can be massive with the right chemovar. You can use that to great effect in suppositories, but I'd caution it through the gut in your case. Are you open to using suppositories? It wouldn't be a forever thing, just until you had some relief, which would denote the ECS taking charge of the situation again. The BioBombs can be used for this purpose, making the entire experience much easier to live with. We've gone out of our way here to make this an attractive treatment method. The benefits make it the preferred method of administration in extreme cases. You may qualify for that.
If not suppositories, then BioBombs on a regular schedule would be my next recommendation. The 4 doses a day help create a level Endocannabinoid tone, with a steady supply of fresh cannabinoids coming in on a regular schedule. This is how you get past simply treating symptoms and make the step to real relief, and anticipated healing.
Now you get my talk on the mind/body connection.
Your ECS is directly linked to the limbic system, which creates the chemical cascades that generate your personality. Those thoughts you think create emotions, and those feelings are what drives the response of your ECS, the dynamic healing system you were born with. It's job is to balance your central nervous system with your immune system. Much of the way we heal is tied to the way we think, and knowing this I encourage you to create the feeling of wholeness.
Find the memory of that time when you weren't living with this pain. Do your best to recreate the emotional feeling of that healthy being and pull up that emotional response every time you think of the challenge you're dealing with, and with every dose of cannabis you take live that emotion, if only for a brief moment.
You've spent too many years identifying with this disease. Change the mental script to the best of your ability. Your ECS can't distinguish between reality and what you tell it. It'll believe what you tell it every time. What I'm asking you to do is to begin telling your body that it's healed, and this is the way that feels. You're not lying to your body by doing this. The ultimate goal of the cannabinoid therapy is a balanced ECS, and that's your expectation. You're simply allowing yourself to feel it now, to the benefit of your ECS. In general terms you're creating a map for your ECS to follow, one that has healing at the end. I realize how unorthodox this sounds, but what do you have to lose by building a healthier conversation with your ECS? Humor me.
My last thoughts for right now: if you're really adverse to using THC I recommend you find a way to begin consuming cannabis raw. Juicing is the preferred option. No THC to deal with, and now that they're beginning to actually study cannabis the news about THCa is more than exciting. Juicing, if it's an option for you, may be your ultimate solution. I don't know what it will do for pain, that's the job of THC, but I know it'll get the body healing and eventually your BMS will be ancient history.
Consider that blissful thought for a moment, your BMS ancient history..........
Eventually that's our intent anyway. One way or another we'll find your relief. I'm nothing if not relentless. You will find relief, if I have anything to do with it.
Anyway, again, my apologies for the delay and I appreciate your time and response... especially to positive outlooks. I totally believe in that philosophy! Hugs!
