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Sounds like a détente has been reached, and that's a good thing. Leading with an apology was a great step.

I'm glad you have pushed through.
 
Big cola party in that tent right now! :party:
 
Alafornia said:
Doing my best. The boy definitely thought/thinks he'd like a new family.
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I think we all, kinda go through a phase of “wanting a new family”

Is it a phase... or is this normal behaviour. I know he’s been acting out a lot for you and tangled but as you were saying. After you swallowed your pride, and apologized to him, things have been better.

I hope that trend continues!!

Have a great day!
 
Backlipslide said:
I think we all, kinda go through a phase of “wanting a new family”

Is it a phase... or is this normal behaviour. I know he’s been acting out a lot for you and tangled but as you were saying. After you swallowed your pride, and apologized to him, things have been better.

I hope that trend continues!!

Have a great day!
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I'd say more a phase and naivete, but less pride than righteous indignation. He had broken (cumulatively) in the neighborhood of a grand + of items and had pushed his mom causing her to fall. Fortunately, she was uninjured. My confrontations with him were with him on one side of his door and me on the other. I dared not burst in and provoke a potential physical confrontation between us, knowing the state we were each in emotionally. He said then he wanted a new family. I told him if his behavior continued I would help in that endeavor - and I meant it. I would also begin selling his things until everything he breaks was replaced if anything else was broken. I can't have everyone living here in fear. I will not allow it. He is very capable of understanding these things mentally even if the emotional maturity is severely lacking. Driving that point home those behaviors stopped immediately and haven't returned. I had alluded to these problems previously without going into detail, partly because I didn't want anyone to label him or others unfairly as being violent when the behaviors seemed quite impulsive. When speaking to him multiple times got nowhere I had to simply "lay down the law" and it was fair to let him know what consequences his behavior would bring. It was necessary for me to have a strong resolve even if it alienated him. Apologizing for raising my voice does not negate the substance but does signal a recognition for his feelings and a desire to "normalize" the relationship. I hope he comes around sooner than later.
 
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I'd say more a phase and naivete, but less pride than righteous indignation. He had broken (cumulatively) in the neighborhood of a grand + of items and had pushed his mom causing her to fall. Fortunately, she was uninjured. My confrontations with him were with him on one side of his door and me on the other. I dared not burst in and provoke a potential physical confrontation between us, knowing the state we were each in emotionally. He said then he wanted a new family. I told him if his behavior continued I would help in that endeavor - and I meant it. I would also begin selling his things until everything he breaks was replaced if anything else was broken. I can't have everyone living here in fear. I will not allow it. He is very capable of understanding these things mentally even if the emotional maturity is severely lacking. Driving that point home those behaviors stopped immediately and haven't returned. I had alluded to these problems previously without going into detail, partly because I didn't want anyone to label him or others unfairly as being violent when the behaviors seemed quite impulsive. When speaking to him multiple times got nowhere I had to simply "lay down the law" and it was fair to let him know what consequences his behavior would bring. It was necessary for me to have a strong resolve even if it alienated him. Apologizing for raising my voice does not negate the substance but does signal a recognition for his feelings and a desire to "normalize" the relationship. I hope he comes around sooner than later.
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I hope everything works out sounds like you are under a lot of stress
 
PCaddict said:
I hope everything works out sounds like you are under a lot of stress
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You could say that. lol! Not much new in that, though. That said, the wife's health - mental and physical - has improved over the past few months which relieves some. We've been through a lot just the past couple of years in addition to just the usual state of being. Been told I should write a book. :D
 

Medical cannabis for inflammatory bowel disease: real-life experience of mode of consumption and assessment of side-effects - PubMed

Cannabis use by inflammatory bowel disease patients can induce clinical improvement and is associated with reduced use of medication and slight weight gain. Most patients respond well to a dose of 30 g/month, or 21 mg Δ9-tetra- hydrocannabinol (THC) and 170 mg Cannabidiol (CBD) per day.
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Cannabis use by inflammatory bowel disease patients can induce clinical improvement and is associated with reduced use of medication and slight weight gain. Most patients respond well to a dose of 30 g/month, or 21 mg Δ9-tetra- hydrocannabinol (THC) and 170 mg Cannabidiol (CBD) per day.
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Evidence keeps mounting.
 
Alafornia said:
I'd say more a phase and naivete, but less pride than righteous indignation. He had broken (cumulatively) in the neighborhood of a grand + of items and had pushed his mom causing her to fall. Fortunately, she was uninjured. My confrontations with him were with him on one side of his door and me on the other. I dared not burst in and provoke a potential physical confrontation between us, knowing the state we were each in emotionally. He said then he wanted a new family. I told him if his behavior continued I would help in that endeavor - and I meant it. I would also begin selling his things until everything he breaks was replaced if anything else was broken. I can't have everyone living here in fear. I will not allow it. He is very capable of understanding these things mentally even if the emotional maturity is severely lacking. Driving that point home those behaviors stopped immediately and haven't returned. I had alluded to these problems previously without going into detail, partly because I didn't want anyone to label him or others unfairly as being violent when the behaviors seemed quite impulsive. When speaking to him multiple times got nowhere I had to simply "lay down the law" and it was fair to let him know what consequences his behavior would bring. It was necessary for me to have a strong resolve even if it alienated him. Apologizing for raising my voice does not negate the substance but does signal a recognition for his feelings and a desire to "normalize" the relationship. I hope he comes around sooner than later.
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Wow, you used a lot of big words there.

I’m not going to lie. I had to look them up in the dictionary.

The entire time knowing you, you and your wife have been through a ton with your boy.

This is all so very personal! And the last thing I want to do is make you feel like you need to share things you don’t want to share.

I appreciate you being upfront with us all, and I guess it’s also good, to vent about it. Regardless of if we’re professionals in this matter or not. I feel it’s a great thing to get off your chest. Bottling it in will do nothing but add stress, and may even escalate the situation.

Anger is a weird emotion. It sounds like your boy has a lot of it bottled up. Now saying that, does a person level out after a certain age in that state of mind? Like once the testosterone levels level out after puberty stage..? If that makes sense..

I do hope things come around, like you said sooner then later.

I hope your wife wasn’t injured in the confrontation.

Have a great night you guys!
 
Heya Al, just swinging past, checkin your plants, looking lovely.
Best of luck with the family stuff.
Doing a good job mate.
 
Backlipslide said:
Wow, you used a lot of big words there.

I’m not going to lie. I had to look them up in the dictionary.

The entire time knowing you, you and your wife have been through a ton with your boy.

This is all so very personal! And the last thing I want to do is make you feel like you need to share things you don’t want to share.

I appreciate you being upfront with us all, and I guess it’s also good, to vent about it. Regardless of if we’re professionals in this matter or not. I feel it’s a great thing to get off your chest. Bottling it in will do nothing but add stress, and may even escalate the situation.

Anger is a weird emotion. It sounds like your boy has a lot of it bottled up. Now saying that, does a person level out after a certain age in that state of mind? Like once the testosterone levels level out after puberty stage..? If that makes sense..

I do hope things come around, like you said sooner then later.

I hope your wife wasn’t injured in the confrontation.

Have a great night you guys!
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Lots of families with autistic children deal with these things when puberty hits. This time is bad enough for "normal"/neurotypical teens. Autism simply adds another layer of complexity. Teen boys are typically angry creatures.

We have continued working with school staff on these issues. I personally called on Saturday and spoke with the officer who came to our house to get more input from him. He's been in counseling. In our discussions several people have each independently supposed that he is as angry at himself as anything else - and though I thought it the fact that others who were unaware of my thought and unaware of others thoughts each put that forth only reinforces my thoughts about guilt, shame, and feeling out of control making him more angry at himself. He avoids other because he doesn't want us to see him (part of the shame). These things come out as anger and lashing outward as a reflection of what is going on inside.

Impulse control has always been an issue as has the fragility of his ego.

She was not injured.
 
Lowrider72 said:
Heya Al, just swinging past, checkin your plants, looking lovely.
Best of luck with the family stuff.
Doing a good job mate.
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Thanks, LR.
 
I went ahead and up potted the first clones today into 1 gal pots.

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Westley Clone Roots

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MH1 Clone Roots

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Nikita Clone Roots

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Northern Lights Clone Roots

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First clones up potted
 
Alafornia said:
Lots of families with autistic children deal with these things when puberty hits. This time is bad enough for "normal"/neurotypical teens. Autism simply adds another layer of complexity. Teen boys are typically angry creatures.

We have continued working with school staff on these issues. I personally called on Saturday and spoke with the officer who came to our house to get more input from him. He's been in counseling. In our discussions several people have each independently supposed that he is as angry at himself as anything else - and though I thought it the fact that others who were unaware of my thought and unaware of others thoughts each put that forth only reinforces my thoughts about guilt, shame, and feeling out of control making him more angry at himself. He avoids other because he doesn't want us to see him (part of the shame). These things come out as anger and lashing outward as a reflection of what is going on inside.

Impulse control has always been an issue as has the fragility of his ego.

She was not injured.
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I’m sensing a lot of frustration towards me. :bong:

(Backs away slowly)
 
Not at all. Sorry if it came across that way.
 
Cut these clones September 23 or 15 days ago. Setting the domes cockeyed so the RH slowly falls then I’ll remove them. Thought clones taken in flower take longer to root? These guys were quick!

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Blueberry 2.2 Roots

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Blueberry 2.1 Roots

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OG Kush CBD 2.1 Roots

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Orange Sherbert 2.1 Roots

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All the clones in the warming pad
 
Day 39 of 12/12.

Had to stake MH1 and Westley since the buds were leaning over from the weight. I think that's a good thing :) Got the stakes from the local hardware store.

Got just a few pics tonight.

I watered again. Pretty sure it was three days but since the temps have moderated they are taking less water than when it was getting into the upper 80's in there. In a couple or so nights the low will be in the mid-teens. brrrrr... Glad I got the seal on. Need to get some foam board to insulate the door.

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MH1 staked

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Westley staked

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Northern Lights

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Northern Lights

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Northern Lights

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Tent right

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